Battling with ADHD
ADHD is commonly mistaken for a problem with motivation or effort. However, this is far from the truth. It is a regulation difference in the brain. An individual with ADHD will find their nervous system and executive functioning system works differently under pressure, stimulation and stress.
Self-esteem
Many adults with ADHD or those who get a later diagnosis of ADHD grew up internalising shame.
“Why can’t I just complete this task?”
“Why does it feel so much harder for me to complete than others?”
“I try so hard but I still fall behind, why me?”
“I am doing so much to manage these symptoms but still feel like I am not good enough!”
The science and evidence
Research shows that ADHD affects working memory, attention regulation, impulse control, task initiation, time perception/management and emotional processing.
Misconceptions
ADHD can often be judged or misunderstood as:
Lack of focus.
Poor time management.
Being forgetful and careless.
Being inconsistent.
Being emotionally sensitive.
Taking too long to complete something.
However, ADHD can also bring difference that is positive:
Creative problem-solving.
Passionate about topics or hobbies.
Highly adaptive.
Innovative thinkers.
Great at pattern recognition.
Support
Supporting individuals with ADHD in feeling their best involves building an understanding of what ADHD is and is not, allowing an individual to advocate for what they need and implementing practical support strategies in various environments.
Further develop an understanding of ADHD:
Learn about ADHD symptoms and how it uniquely affects individuals. Understanding that common challenges like difficulty focusing, impulsivity, or disorganisation are symptoms of a neurological condition, not character flaws, is crucial for effective support.
Acknowledge Strengths:
ADHD is not just about challenges. Many with ADHD are creative, energetic, passionate and resilient. Acknowledge and appreciate these strengths to help build their self-esteem.
Minimise Distractions:
Be mindful of and help minimise sensory input (e.g. loud noises, excessive clutter, or multiple background conversations) as this can make focusing difficult.
Use Visual Aids and Reminders:
Encourage or help implement tools like whiteboards, calendars, checklists, and visual timers. External reminders can significantly support organisation and task management.
Encourage Healthy Habits:
Support efforts toward physical activity, a balanced diet and sufficient sleep. These can all significantly impact ADHD symptoms and overall mood.